The pace of our lives has become very fast over the last few decades, so naturally, relationships have changed as well. There is less time for social and romantic foreplay – people quickly fall for each other and get together due to intense chemistry. But when the passion calms down a bit, they find out they don’t really know much about their partner, and the whole relationship crumbles even faster than it appeared. In order to avoid that, you need to pay close attention to the way you are feeling about how things are going between you and your loved one. If you aren’t feeling too comfortable, you might want to slow down. Here are 10 signs your relationship is moving too fast.
You don’t have serious discussions
At a certain stage of relationship, you start opening up to the other person and having those serious talks about religion, family, your past, lifestyle preferences, having kids, etc. Having those talks means you’ve reached a certain level of maturity in your relationship and all is going well. If you aren’t having those kinds of discussions, it means your relationship is still in the baby stage and you shouldn’t do anything rash like moving in together or planning a family.
You crave time for yourself
New relationships can be overwhelming, but usually, we enjoy all those new emotions and changes come into our lives. Nevertheless, if you’re feeling that you miss those single days when you could binge-watch Game of Thrones and simply have some time for yourself, it’s a sure sign your relationship is moving too quickly and you need to slow things down. You need to have some personal time and space, otherwise your relationship will end very quickly.
It’s all about chemistry
Are you actually involved in each other’s lives? When the chemistry settles down and the hormones become less crazy, you might find yourself with a person you don’t really know. Slow down and take some time exploring each other’s personalities.
Your friends aren’t sure about your new bae
Your besties have seen you going through some rough patches and they have always been there for you. They also know when you are beyond happy, that’s why when they’re telling you something is wrong about this guy – you should listen! See what they have to say. If you’re moving too fast, they will definitely tell you.
You don’t meet with your friends and family
Whether we are in love or not, it’s really important to maintain relationships with the people that are dear to us. If you’ve stopped meeting with your parents and have ditched your friends on more than one occasion, it’s time to stop and take a look at your new love affair. If it’s taking all of your time leaving nothing for other meaningful connections, it might be time to slow down a bit.
You’ve already met his parents
There’s no specific timeline as to when you should meet his parents and friends, but we can all agree that the later, the better. First, you need to get comfortable as a couple to make sure you can both handle the pressure. But if you’ve been dating for a month and you’ve already met his parents, friends, and his friends’ parents, it is a sure sign you’re taking things too fast. Passion may calm down soon and you’ll find yourself entangled in the life of another person. It’ll be hard to get out of that!
You change your whole life to be with him
It’s okay to make some changes and adjustments in order to make your relationship work. But if you’ve changed your whole schedule and started skipping your usual routines just to meet him, it will only cause you stress in the end. Compromises need to be made on both sides, so make sure you are not the only one making all the adjustments. At the end of the day you want to have your own life and for him to have his own things, too. You aren’t glued to each other and it’s okay to spend time apart or doing things alone.
You talk about marriage before living together
You might both be keen on moving things forward fast because it just feels right, but it’s always best to take things slow when it comes to serious arrangements like that. Move-in, live together for some time to see just how compatible you are with each other, and then start talking about more serious matters. If you find yourself making plans for the wedding before you even moved in together, take a deep breath and re-evaluate the whole thing.
You’re afraid he’d get bored
You’re seeing each other so often that you actually start thinking it might be too much and he’ll get bored with you. This happens only when you’re moving too fast, trying to meet as much as possible and texting each other every free second of your lives. Well, that might work for some couples, but the general rule is – take some time off, create some space to start missing each other, and it will do wonders for your relationship.
You just got out of a relationship
This one is tricky because there is no set timeline as to how much time should pass before you engage in another relationship. But one thing we can tell for sure – you can’t rush things! If you’ve just experienced a break-up you need time for yourself to really understand the experience and the lessons it has taught you. Your emotional state is also still out of balance, so it is easy to get really hurt if the person you’ve fallen for decides to call it quits. You need to take things as slow as possible if you want to build a healthy and happy relationship with your new boyfriend.